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#484 - She Found Her One at 70

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Have you ever told yourself that you're too old to find a good relationship, much less find extraordinary love? What about "It's not worth it," "It's too hard to date today," or "I'm too set in my ways to let someone into my life"?

These are some of the most common reasons I hear from people who are ready to give up on dating. And I get it. If you've been hurt, disappointed, or simply worn down by the process, those thoughts can feel like the truth.

But here's the thing. They aren't the truth. They're stories. And the stories we tell ourselves have a lot more power than most of us realize.

Your Brain Is Listening

There's a part of your brain called the reticular activating system. Think of it as a filter that decides what gets your attention and what gets ignored. Whatever you tell it is important, it goes looking for.

You've probably experienced this. You buy a new car, and suddenly you see that same model everywhere. Those cars were always there. Your brain just started noticing them.

The same thing happens with your beliefs about love. When you keep telling yourself you're too old, your brain goes to work finding proof. Every awkward date, every unanswered message, every friend's bad experience becomes more evidence that you were right all along. Meanwhile, the possibilities sitting right in front of you slip by unnoticed.

The good news? It works the other way too. When you believe extraordinary love is possible, your brain starts noticing the people, the opportunities, and the connections that support that belief.

Let me tell you a short story about why you might be selling yourself short.

"Can You Believe It?"

Last week while I was in the Kansas City area, I attended a couple of social events put on by a Meetup group I still belong to. At one of them I ran into a longtime friend, and we had a brief conversation.

She was there with her date, and she was all bubbly and excited to share her news. She said, "Can you believe at 70 years old I found my One?"

She went on to tell me how wonderful it was to find someone she connected with so deeply. Someone who actually encouraged her and supported her. The smile on her face said it all!

What makes her story even more meaningful is what came before it. In the more than ten years I've known her, she had a couple of short-term relationships, and they all ended badly. She had been hurt more than once. Plenty of people would have taken those experiences as a sign to close the door for good.

She didn't. She was able to move past the hurt and welcome someone into her life who was perfect for her. It was something she never expected, but it was also something she never gave up on.

What Kept Her Going

So what made the difference? A big part of it was simply who she chose to be. She's a social person who loves being out and about with people. She stayed active, kept showing up to events, and kept saying yes to life, even during the seasons when romance wasn't part of the picture.

She wasn't sitting at home waiting for love to knock on her door. She was living a full life, and that full life put her in the right place to meet the right person.

That isn't luck. That's what happens when you stay open.

Your Story Isn't Over

Giving up is the one choice that guarantees you'll stay unhappily alone. But staying open to the possibility, and staying socially active, creates opportunities that simply wouldn't exist otherwise.

You don't have to have it all figured out. You don't have to feel confident every single day. You just have to keep the door open a crack and keep putting yourself in places where good things can happen.

So the next time you hear that voice say, "I'm too old for this," try answering it with a different question: "What if the best part is still ahead of me?"

My friend found her One at 70. Your story is still being written too.

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