#437 - The Uncomfortable Truth About “Wanting to Meet Someone Organically
We all love the idea of meeting someone “organically.”
It sounds romantic — like something out of a movie.
You’re in the grocery store, you both reach for the same bag of coffee, your eyes meet, and the rest is history.
It’s beautiful. It’s safe. It feels right.
But what if that very belief — the one that sounds so natural and spiritual — is actually what’s keeping you single?
Because faith isn’t about sitting still and waiting for love to show up.
Sometimes faith means moving toward the thing you’ve been praying for.
The Harsh Reality Most Midlife Singles Miss
Here’s a stat that should get your attention:
Only 14% of singles over 45 are actively dating.
Yet when I ask midlife singles why they’re not in a relationship, nearly three out of four tell me,
“I just want to meet someone organically.”
But when we dig deeper, I find that most of them attend less than one social event a month where they could even meet someone new.
That’s like hoping to win the lottery… without ever buying a ticket.
If that stings a little, good. Because sometimes the truth is the wake-up call we need.
Why “Organic” Becomes an Excuse
For most people, “I want to meet someone naturally” is code for “I don’t want to get hurt again.”
I get it.
After divorce, loss, or years of bad relationships, it’s easier to tell yourself, “If it’s meant to be, it’ll happen.”
But that’s not faith — that’s fear wearing a spiritual disguise.
Fear says, “Stay safe.”Janet’s Story: From Fear to Faith
Faith says, “Take the next step.”
When you stop putting yourself in new environments, when you avoid new people, when you say no to opportunities — you’re not protecting your heart.
You’re quietly guaranteeing you’ll stay alone.
Janet’s Story: From Fear to Faith
A client of mine, Janet, 56, once told me,
“Rick, I’m done with dating apps. I’m just trusting God to bring the right man into my life.”
So I said, “Okay, Janet, let’s track how often you go out to meet new people.”
A few weeks later, she called me — crying.
“Rick,” she said, “I only left the house four times this month… work, groceries, and my mom’s doctor appointment.”
That’s when I told her something that changed everything:
“You’re not protecting yourself from pain. You’re guaranteeing you’ll stay single.”
She went quiet. Then said softly, “You’re right.”
That single moment changed her trajectory.
She took a leap of faith, joined one app, and met Robert three months later.
A year later, they were married.
Not because she got lucky — but because she stopped waiting for fate and started walking in faith.
What the Research (and Real Life) Says
Here’s what the data shows:
It doesn’t matter how you meet.
There’s no difference in long-term success between couples who met online and those who met in person.
It’s not about chance — it’s about choice.
Extraordinary relationships happen when you show up intentionally, not when you wait for the universe to send you a sign.
If you’d like to take a deeper look at this topic — and hear the full story, including the mindset shift that changed Janet’s life — watch my latest YouTube video:
🎥 Are You Lying to Yourself About Why You’re Still Single?
👉 https://youtu.be/P9UXv46BjG0
If You Want Love, Take Action
So let’s make this real.
If you want to meet someone, do one of these:
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Make “organic” actually work. Join new activities, say yes to invites, tell people you’re looking.
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Try online the smart way. Build an authentic profile and talk to real people.
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Do both. Because every day you wait, someone your age is meeting their person.
Faith requires movement.
Your Next Step
If you’ve been stuck in the same cycle of waiting, I want to help you move forward.
I’ve opened five private coaching spots this month — and the only way to secure one is by scheduling a Free 30-minute Discovery Call first.
In that call, we’ll uncover what’s really keeping you single, clarify your “Must Have” list, and create a personalized plan to finally find the love you deserve.
Don’t wait for January.
Faith isn’t about waiting. It’s about taking the step in front of you.
📅 Book your free Discovery Call now:
👉 https://calendly.com/rick-56/30-min-discovery-call
Your person is out there right now.
Maybe they’re praying for you just like you’ve been praying for them.
But they can’t find you if you’re hiding behind “organic.”
Faith was never meant to be passive.
It moves. It acts. It trusts.
So stop waiting for love to just happen — and start walking toward it.
P.S.
If this message hit home, share it with a friend who keeps saying they want to meet someone “organically.”
It might be the nudge they need, too.