#416 - The Truth You Don’t Want to Hear (But Desperately Need To)
You Can’t Fix What You Refuse to See
Let’s get uncomfortable for a moment.
Not the “I-wore-the-wrong-shoes” kind of uncomfortable…
I’m talking about the discomfort that comes when someone you trust says,
“Hey… you might be sabotaging yourself and not even realize it.”
Now, your instinct might be to get defensive.
To explain. To justify. To say, “Yeah, but they did this…” or “You don’t know what I’ve been through.”
But here’s the hard truth:
We all have blind spots.
And if no one ever lovingly points them out, we keep living the same story, repeating the same relationship patterns… and wondering why love keeps slipping through our fingers.
You Are Not Broken. But You May Be Blind.
If you're divorced or widowed and dating again after years—or decades—out of the game, the rules have changed.
You're older. Wiser. You've got more life experience under your belt than you did when you were 22.
But that doesn’t mean you're seeing everything clearly.
In fact, the very experiences that were meant to make you stronger may have created emotional blind spots that now hold you back:
- You expect heartbreak, so you never let your guard down.
- You believe all the good ones are taken, so you settle for less.
- You think being “too picky” is the problem, when in reality, your standards might just be unclear or based on past wounds.
And here’s the kicker—you can’t spot these blind spots on your own.
That’s not weakness. That’s being human.
Growth Starts With Truth
I’ve spent more than a decade helping midlife singles just like you get out of the cycle of bad dates, toxic relationships, and lonely Friday nights.
And the #1 breakthrough moment?
It almost always starts when someone finally says:
“Rick… I never realized I was doing that.”
And it’s not because they weren’t smart or self-aware.
It’s because they were trying to do it all alone—without someone who would lovingly say the things their friends were too polite to say.
We’ve all been there. It’s tempting to surround yourself with people who say,
“You’re amazing, they just didn’t deserve you!”
“You’ll find someone eventually!”
“Just be patient—it’ll happen when you least expect it!”
While well-meaning, those words rarely change your results.
What actually creates change is someone who says:
“You’re amazing—but here’s what you might be missing.”
That’s where I come in.
Your Dating Life Doesn’t Have to Stay Stuck
Right now, you’re at a fork in the road.
You can keep doing what you’ve always done—hoping that somehow, things will be different.
Or…
You can choose something better.
You can choose to take off the blinders, look at your dating life with fresh eyes, and finally get the support you’ve needed all along.
And no, I’m not saying this to sell you something.
I’m saying this because too many amazing, kind-hearted people keep waiting for love to “just happen”—without ever realizing how they’re getting in their own way.
You don’t need another dating app.
You need clarity.
You need strategy.
You need truth.
But most of all, you need someone who cares enough to say, “Let’s look at this together. I’ll help you see what you can’t.”
Ready for a Breakthrough?
If what you’ve read so far hits a nerve—in a good way—maybe it’s time to talk.
I offer a free 30-minute Discovery Call to help you:
- Uncover the blind spots that are sabotaging your dating life
- Get clear on your Must Haves and Deal Breakers
- And discover if coaching might be the missing piece to finally finding the love you want
There’s no pressure. No awkward sales pitch. Just a real conversation about your real life.
Because dating at this stage of life isn’t about games.
It’s about growing into the kind of person who attracts a relationship that actually works.
➡️ Click here to schedule your free Discovery Call now.
Let’s help you stop repeating old patterns… and start building the love life you actually deserve.