#414 - Stop Waiting for God to Deliver Your Soul Mate
Stop Waiting for God to Drop Your Soul Mate at the Door
“I’m just waiting on God to bring me the right one.”
If you’re a Christian single, chances are you’ve either said this or heard it more times than you can count. On the surface, it sounds spiritual. Faithful. Patient. But in reality, it often masks a deeper issue—passivity.
We confuse waiting on God with doing nothing at all. But biblically speaking, waiting on God has never meant sitting on the sidelines while life passes you by.
In fact, God rarely moves without first requiring some sort of action or obedience from us.
Let’s take a closer look.
Faith Requires Movement
Think about Noah. God absolutely intended to save Noah and his family from the flood. But what did He tell Noah to do? Build the ark. And not just any ark—a massive, 450-foot vessel, built by hand, likely while people mocked him for believing in something they couldn’t see.
Noah’s salvation required action. Trust alone wouldn’t have kept his feet dry. Obedience plus movement did.
And then there’s Ruth. She didn’t sit at home and wait for Boaz to magically knock on her door. She worked. She gleaned in the fields. She made herself visible. She listened to Naomi’s wise counsel. And when the time came, she took initiative. God honored her faithfulness, but it was her movement that positioned her for the blessing.
The same is true of Abraham’s servant when he was sent to find a wife for Isaac. He didn’t meditate in a tent or wait for a dream. He took ten camels and journeyed hundreds of miles. He prayed as he moved. Then he took action when the opportunity arrived—he engaged with Rebekah, asked questions, and made an offer.
In every case, faith wasn’t passive. It was expectant and active.
Waiting vs Hiding
Let’s be honest: sometimes “waiting on God” is a disguise for fear, discouragement, or plain old laziness.
Some people have been burned before. Others are overwhelmed by dating apps or feel invisible in social circles. Still others believe they’re being holy by “trusting God,” when what they’re really doing is avoiding the risk of being hurt again.
Here’s the hard truth—you can’t meet someone if you never show up. You can’t build a healthy relationship if you don’t put yourself in healthy environments where one can grow.
Faith doesn’t ignore reality. Faith walks into it with eyes open, trusting God to guide and provide along the way.
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Even Miracles Required Obedience
The Bible is full of stories where the miracle followed the movement.
- The Israelites still had to fight battles to possess the Promised Land.
- Peter had to cast his net again even after a night of catching nothing.
- The blind man had to go wash in the Pool of Siloam before his sight was restored.
- The woman with the issue of blood had to press through the crowd to touch the hem of Jesus’ robe.
If these people had stayed still, they would’ve missed the blessing.
And yet, so many singles today think the right person will just appear without any effort. That mindset is not only unrealistic—it’s unbiblical.
God is fully capable of orchestrating divine appointments. But more often than not, those moments happen as we move—not while we isolate, scroll endlessly, or wait for someone to knock on our front door.
Do Your Part—Then Trust God With the Outcome
Faith is not a magic wand. It’s a partnership.
God opens doors, but He expects you to walk through them. He puts people in your path, but you’ve got to speak. He gives you wisdom, but you’ve got to apply it.
So if you’ve been frustrated with dating… if you’ve given up hope… or if you’ve spiritualized your inaction by calling it “waiting on God”—it’s time for a reset.
Ask yourself honestly: Am I waiting, or am I hiding? Am I trusting God and taking action, or am I expecting Him to do all the work?
God is faithful, no doubt. But you have a role to play in the story He’s writing.
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You don’t have to figure it out alone. But you do have to take the first step.