#10 - When are you making your Must Have list?
We have discovered that many people are making their Must Have lists after they have started dating someone. Great care must be taken that your list is not jaded or influenced by your potential or present mate. It is very easy to overlook important Must Haves by only looking at the good characteristics of your present mate. You also need to draw on past… relationships and experiences to help develop your list.
Your present (as well as past) relationship can also be a good source for Deal Breakers. Don’t ignore these issues just because your mate may have a lot of your Must Haves. It is just as important to recognize problem areas as it is to see the good characteristics. And don’t be afraid to address the Deal Breakers with the one you are dating.
Finally, take a good long hard look at YOU! What do you bring to the table? What characteristics make you a candidate to be someone’s soul mate? If you have difficulty looking inward objectively, ask your friends and family for honest opinions on your strong points and what you can improve.
Your ultimate goal should always be to find the love of your life and not settle for anything less than extraordinary. Be the best that you can be and never stop growing, learning and improving. Your soul mate is out there. If the person you are currently dating turns out to be your soul mate, that is wonderful! If he or she isn’t, be patient and stay focused on finding your true love.