#88 - Are you prepared for extraordinary love?

Who or what defines your relationships?  Is it a romance novel?  A movie?  Society?  Family or friends expectations?  If you don’t believe in soul mates or that you can have an extraordinary relationship, what are your limiting beliefs?  What would it take to have everything you want in a relationship?

What does extraordinary love look like?  It is a total commitment to someone other than yourself.  It is being with someone that you cannot imagine being without.  It is sharing the special moments, the highs, the lows and everything in between.  Your mate, spouse, significant other is the first person you want to share anything with.  It is dealing with difficult subjects, not avoiding them.  It is communicating openly and freely without fear of reprisal.  And…it is so much more than words can describe.

What an extraordinary relationship is not!  It is not a relationship that completes you.  You have to be whole before you enter the relationship.  If you rely on someone else to be your whole world, you are setting yourself up for failure.  It is not a 50/50 relationship.  It is a 100/100 relationship.  You each give your all and expect nothing in return.  If you are not both 100% committed to each other then you may want to re-evaluate your relationship and why you are in it.

Are you prepared to wait for the right relationship?  Because we live in such an immediate gratification society, we have lost our will to wait for the right one.  We often opt to settle for a flawed relationships.  Or, if we can’t have it now, we will move on to the next relationship that becomes available instead of giving our potential mate the chance to warm up to the possibilities of exploring a relationship together.  I am finding this very common in men.  We tend to want to move into a relationship much faster than most women.  A study released in 2012 indicates that men are more likely to say “I love you” first, taking an average of 88 days to say it compared to 134 days for women.  If she isn’t ready for a full on relationship, we tend to move on without giving her the chance to catch up to us.  This is a huge mistake.  We may be passing up extraordinary because of impatience!

Finally, we have been programed by changing societal standards to believe that we cannot have everything that we want in a relationship.  We are told it is unrealistic, foolish and even selfish to think you can have everything you want in a mate.  We are told that no one is perfect so it is impossible to find your perfect match.  I call BS on all those thoughts.  You can have everything you are looking for as long as you truly know what you want and are willing to wait for the right one.  No one said this would be easy.  But, it is so worth the wait, the frustration and even the loneliness when you finally find that extraordinary relationship.

While you are waiting and searching for your extraordinary relationship, work on being the best you can be.  Be prepared for your extraordinary love by being and extraordinary person.

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