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#56 - Are you a cheerleader, an enabler, or a dream killer?

The cheerleader is the person in your corner cheering you on, encouraging you and holding you accountable when necessary. These are the people that want to see you succeed and exceed even your own wildest expectations.

 

The enabler is the person that is in your corner, cheers you on but doesn’t hold you accountable. They are the people that will tell you it’s okay when you make excuses for not following through on a promise or commitment.

 

The dream killer is neither in your corner nor encouraging. In fact they will probably bet against you given the chance. These are the people that will tell you that you aren’t good enough, you can’t do what you set out to do. They generally have a very negative outlook on life.

 

Surround yourself with cheerleaders. Keep the enablers and dream killers at an arms distance from you or better yet get them out of your life if possible. While enablers and dream killers may seem to have good intentions, relationships with them are generally toxic and destructive to you.

 

Now, look at yourself. Which one are you…a cheerleader, an enabler or a dream killer?

 
I believe that we all can be a cheerleader, an enabler or dream killer at different times in our lives depending on the situation.  Ideally we will be the cheerleader most of the time, but certain situations may require a different approach to dealing with family, friends and acquaintances.  You may need to be a dream killer if you can plainly see that the behavior of someone you are about is destructive and dangerous.

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