#27 - You're too picky!

You’re to picky! You’re expectations are to high! You’re looking for perfection; it doesn’t exist! You’ll never find a man/woman that meets all your needs!

 These are just a few of the many statements we hear when we talk to people about finding an extraordinary mate. Because we live in an “immediate gratification” society, we expect to walk in a room full of people, magically find our soul mate, and live happily ever after. That scenario couldn’t be any farther from the truth! However, because of our society, we don’t want to wait to find that special someone. We don’t want to take the time to be a little analytical and learn about our potential mate. (I know! I can hear it now. Analytical!?! How romantic is that? Right?) We need to be able to step back from the blinders of infatuation to see who we are really dating.


Our society continually bombards us with the message that there is no perfect person so stop trying to find perfection. In my reading this past weekend I came across two different articles that made that very point. In essence they both said that no long-term relationship/marriage can be easy because of our differences. Both articles suggested that you find the person that has some great qualities and then settle for less than great for the rest of their qualities.


We whole heartedly disagree. In fact, both articles are dead wrong because they succumb to the belief that you cannot find someone perfect for you. (Notice, I said “perfect for you” and not “perfect”. There is no such thing as a perfect person, but there is someone out there that is perfect for each of us.) You should never settle for less than extraordinary under any circumstance. Either your potential mate has everything on your must have list or they don’t. There is no in-between. You have found you soul mate or you haven’t! Don’t fall into the trap of believing you need to settle for less than extraordinary to have someone in your life!